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First, all those behaviors sound normal of any child, with or without abuse/neglect issues. Second, my guess would be if they are dumped by their foster family to go on a vacation and you all snub every behavior sounds like their is no love or consistency from anyone.
I would say if you can't handle some typical behaviors from children with abuse/neglect baggage, then you do not need to adopt. You are not going to get a perfect child, biological or not. All children have issues, more so than others. I would fear you would want to dump any child or children that are snotty and of course the last things the kids need is to not be accept by a family because they have typical behaviors with baggage. You need to walk in their shoes, where is the consistency, love, support, when no one seems to want to be with you. And...sit in the bed for an HOUR! An hour to these children is like a whole day! These are children!
My final word is get out of foster care and adoption, your husband is right!
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