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Well my daughter's bio father took me to court when she was 4. He is an awful person and did not care about her, only cared about winning.
What I tell her is that it is my job as her mom to protect her, and when she gets older and is an adult, if she decides to talk to him, that will be her choice. Right now, he has done bad things, and hopefully by the time she gets older he will have chosen another path-- but at that time it will be her decision to make.
She does have contact with her bio grandfather, so does have connection to family... but not him or his siblings. They dont even know we live in state again.
Right now she has her "daddy" (bio was not on the bc--- long story) and she knows that she has a bio father too and that will be something for her to sort out later...
I would just be direct... but make it clear that even though you and him fight, that when she gets older it will be ok for her to make a different choice. For now she will have to trust you.
PS
If she truly misses him, then you may offer to let her write a letter or draw a picture for him now and then.... ???
Christine
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