[spaypets]

If your ex doesn't want to see her, then I suppose the explaination should be something like:

"Your dad has grown up problems that mean he can't see you. You haven't done anything wrong and he loves you a lot, but he isn't able to see you right now."

It's important that she knows this about the grown ups and not her fault. Make sure your current husband spends a lot of time fathering her. Stuff like this makes girls grow up to seek approval from men, usually the wrong ones. She needs to feel important to a man and loved. Fathers are really important to little girls.