[spaypets]

But now he has no rights so there's nothing to fight about. So if she's asking to see him and he wants to see her, what's the harm? Let him take her to the park or out to eat or, here's an idea, put aside the past and invite the man to dinner.

As much as you would like to write him out of her life so you can pretend your new family is the only one she's ever had, you can't. She's half his biologically and she knows him and remembers him. And he was very protective of his time with her (so much that he didn't want to lose time with her so she could go to some other kid's birthday party). Honestly, if I saw my daughter only part time, I wouldn't want to waste it at some other kid's party. I'd want her to be with him.

Your daughter is grieving. She's telling you that by asking about him. You asked how to handle the situation without crushing her? Let her see her dad. Be the bigger person. Put aside your arguments with him and let a little girl see the father she has known since birth. He may be flawed, but she's obviously connected to him.