[kjurgi]

I have thought about it. I've thought about it from the first day two years ago when he wanted to sign off on it. I've also thought about how his other two children have turned out. This isn't good. His daughter is 16 and still in 8th grade and dating boys from correctional schools. Her mother doesn't care and as much as he complained about it he has never tried to get custody of it. In fact he had nothing much to do with her during most of her life by his choice. Once she started wanting too much from him. Even with my daughter when she used to go to daddy's house she never mentioned her father. She always mentioned her stepmother. She never ever mentioned wanting to see her father. Also her father during most of this time will not even speak to me and has his wife do all the talking.

One comment that was made was the sooner the better We will have a couple of our own and raise them the way we want to raise them.

I watched my ex-husband sit there and with no problems at all say that he wanted to have no rights to his child. To me a real father would never do that. He quit a very good paying job so he wouldn't have to support her. He didn't care much about her for anything else. Whenever she was sick he would not have anything to do with her. Never even called to see how she was feeling. She started stuttering and he called me and yelled at me for having someone to teach her to stutter. His exact comment to me was I cannot have a child with a speech impediment. My daughter has asthma and whenever she was at their house they refused to give her the medication because they didn't feel she had the asthma but neither of them would attend her doctor's appointments.

All in all the best thing for her is to have her father out of her life. All there would be would be fighting. I even had to take him to court to have my daughter in my wedding.

Yes I have thought about it. I've thought a lot about it and I'm willing to take that chance to make her life better. All her life would be is mommy and daddy fighting and going to court. He wouldn't even allow her to attend a birthday party of any of her friends from day care if it fell during his time. His statement was she is 4 she doesn't need friends.