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Hi Firepup,

No, you're not being selfish. I can understand both sides. Our kids are 21 and 17 and we're in the process of adopting our 3 young foster children that are 2, 2, and 3. Most people think we're nuts lol.

I think it's a good thing that you're willing to attend the classes with your husband. If, however, after the classes you still feel hesitant at all about going forward, please be totally honest with your husband. Perhaps you could come up with another way for him to give back. BTW, those were the exact words my husband used to describe us adopting. We love children, have had a good adult life and wanted to give back.

Perhaps your husband could become a big brother if you decide adoption's not the route for you. I was a big sister and that's an awesome feeling too. The boy could become a part of your lives and your dh would definitely make a huge difference in his life.

Best of luck in your decision.

Michelle