[scarlet52698]

Daneca1- I really don't think the term "smidge" needed to be defined here and I find it offensive that you would feel the need to do so.

IMO the only people who can understand what a birthparent feels are other birthparents, aparents that have had their children reclaimed, and parents of missing children. There is no closure, no REAL finality. Searching faces in the crowd and wondering what if.........waking up in the middle of the night to check on your children to make sure no one took them away.........trying to pretend you have no idea about childbirth when your friends start having babies and you haven't.........and sooooo much more!

If the general public had a "smidge" of an idea of those things, there wouldn't be rude comments to aparents, there wouldn't be whispers at church about a birthparent, there wouldn't be commercials painting adoption as rainbows and happily ever after.