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I do believe the the people who are offended by things do say why. I think I always tell why a statement or a certain viewpoint hurts or offends me.
I have no problem with people making the choice to adopt a child of their own race. To me, it makes perfect sense to want a child to look like you. Many people who adopt are proud of the fact that they have done so. The are not embarrased of that fact, but they don't want to have to explain their life story every time they go to the mall. I get that totally.
What upsets me is when people are willing to accept any child except full AA. If you and your husband are walking through the mall with a Chinese baby, people are going to know you have adopted. So why not be open to "full" AA if you are open to any other race?
Why does this upset me? Because MY son is "full" AA. And when people say the "anything BUT full AA" statement, what does that say about the value of MY son? When people say, "I'm not comfortable with THAT culture", what does that say about MY sons culture?
The same thing with the whole community aspect. Many people think that if they don't live in an AA community that they can't adopt an AA child. But they are willing to adopt an Asian or Hispanic child in that same WHITE community. Believing that only AA children need to know people of their own race and culture.
So I do believe that I share "why" I get upset at some statements. I know my son is the best thing on earth and if I don't speak up for what I believe, I don't think I could look at myself in the mirror every morning.
And due to reading the adoption forum posts, I have changed view points on several things. I have learned from others perpectives and stories. So maybe someone can learn from mine.
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