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Originally Posted by kelleymac
Finally, I posted the question earlier, but I'll ask again: it's not uncommon to hear African American's object to caucasian parents adopting full AA or biracial/AA babies. I have heard that there is concern about the dilution of the child's identity and heritage in this situation.
Kelley
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I only have a problem with when the parents try to remove/ignore the child’s ethnicity/race and do not have positive role models available. This applies to any child that is not the same race as the parents.
I’ll give you a personal example. My husband’s ex-wife is CC and they have one child together. When he was 12 years old, his mom bleached his hair blonde so he would look more CC. This is an extreme example but I can go through a laundry list of subtle and major things that have been done to diminish his AA side. She always has some lame excuse when my husband calls her on it.
Me, being the good step-mom that I am, kept my mouth shut the last 10 years that I have been around. You just don’t know how hard it has been to keep my mouth shut. It was not and is not my battle to fight…. I make a point of staying out of situations involving my stepson….I don’t agree with a majority of the things that his mom does but she is mother, I’m not.