[Casey677]

Ok. Let me see if I can answer questions brought up to me.

Spay- No, I do not want people to think that I am adulterer. I truly love my husband with all of my being. My point was basically that people would draw their own conclusion regardless and I was throwing out different conclusions that they may have.

Martha- I know that biracial children can have dark skin color. We had the honor of parenting a little guy for three days in October. He is biracial and had very light skin color. However, we had gotten to meet his two year old brother prior who had a much darker skin tone. We had no way of knowing what the little guy's skin color would have been in utero, nor did we care. We were just thrilled that we (almost) got to be his mom & dad.

We live in a very racially diverse neighborhood. We have an AA family next door. The older couple across the street is interacial, just to give you a couple of examples. I truly wasn't concerned about an AA child being discriminated against since in our community, "minorities" aren't as much in the minority (it is probably close to a 60/40 split) as in other areas. I am doing the best that I can to prepare myself for the rude, intrusive comments that will be coming our way. I know that they will be there. Our sole purpose was to try to keep the insensitive comments to a minimum.... from strangers, I will do my best to explain to everyone we know..... and in turn have a happier, more well-adjusted family. And perhaps I am incorrect, but that is the logic that was behind our decision.

Gina, your post was very well thought out and definitely gave me things to think about and discuss with dh.

Casey