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Originally Posted by Sleeplvr
Has anyone thought that by backing away from AA adoptive placements that you are helping perpetuate discrimination? If good people sit by and do nothing then you are helping discrimination stay alive.
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Yes, we thought exactly that, but frankly the battle wouldn't be fought by me, it would be fought by my child. I'm uncomfortable making that decision when I feel strongly that the child is the one who is going to bear the burden of that decision. We have many latino friends who married caucasian partners. Their children are definitely of latino heritage, but they share a caucasian parent. They help us to integrate that culture in a way that we (as full caucasian parents) couldn't probably do alone. I don't want my son to go to school and look around and think: I'm the ONLY one who's family looks like this. Adolescence and childhood are hard enough without that burden.
Finally, I posted the question earlier, but I'll ask again: it's not uncommon to hear African American's object to caucasian parents adopting full AA or biracial/AA babies. I have heard that there is concern about the dilution of the child's identity and heritage in this situation.
With all of those considerations, we chose no. Do I admire Rosa Parks? With all of my being. Would I choose my child to fight a battle that monumental? Probably not. Selfish on my part perhaps, but that's how I feel.
That all said, I will stand up loudly and proclaim that for all of you caucasian parents who have taken this road, I have unremitting admiration for your choice. You are most definitely paving the way for a more understanding/knowing society in our future.
Kelley