[LisaCA]

Originally Posted by jaenelle

I don't know if I'll have anything intelligent to contribute to this discussion, but I did want to chime in as someone who is completely open to adopting a child of ANY race or combination of races.

DH and I live in a small town, rural area, and while we do worry about what our child may go through being the "only" person of that race in school and the community, the reality is that if our child is anything but 100% Caucasian, he or she is going to be the "only" one. That's just where we live -- everyone is white here.

We are hoping that this will mean a shorter wait for a child and also perhaps give a child a home who would be less "desirable" to some adoptive parents -- but certainly not to us! All children are beautiful and all deserve a home with people who love them.

One thing I know, if anyone makes any comments about my future son or daughter's race, they'd better be prepared. I'm only 4'11" but I'm TOUGH!

hi jaenelle,

If I may be so bold as to chime in here, I think what bromanchek is trying to say is that it is extremely difficult for children of color to grow up in all white venues. I did that, but I had the support of a family of color. At the end of the day I went back home to people who looked like me, knew exactly what I was going thru. This is not to say that a white family couldn't have supported me, it just would have been different support.

you might want to visit PACT's website for more info on adopting transracially. It isn't just about love or the fight in you, but also the fact that your child of color will bear the weight of this fight. Frankly, i found it a bit oppressive and very difficult. What might work for you may not work as well for a child of color, in spite of all the love in the world. PACT has a number of articles that you might find interesting. They place children of color in same race and transracial homes. In fact the founders of the organization adopted transracially and have written a book, Inside transracial adoption.

http://pact.best.vwh.net/press/artic...ansracial.html