Kati- When the time is right, God will lead you both to the right expectant mother. Jacob's birthmother chose us because we could relate to her in certain areas...i.e. we had large extended families that are very important to us, reading daily to our children was important, etc. We aren't rich, but comfortable enough to provide for a child and that's what was important to her. We were honest that our child would be attending public schools, not private (she preferred that) and that we'd both have to work (she was okay with that too). We just finalized Jacob's adoption yesterday and it felt
wonderful!
There will be some unique qualities about you and your husband that will appeal to an expectant mother...you just never know what it is. Don't sell yourselves short!
Best of luck in your adoption journey...the research part can seem overwhelming (it was for us when we began) so if you have specific questions, please feel free to PM me.