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The first time we were chosen, we were students living on a grad student stipend (think poverty level). We lived in a 150 year old walk up apartment. We were chosen. The secoind time we were living in Los Angeles in a one bedroom apartment living on my dh's post-doc salary (think just above poverty level) and we were chosen. The third time dh was making a decent living and we had a very small but comfortable house that we had just remodeled. It took all of the money we had and I had to do a lot of the work myself. We still lived in the heart of the city, no large yard or suburban dream home and already had two children. Who would choose us. We were chosen. With #4 we understood that it wasn't about the house or the neighborhood or our advanced ages it was about the kind of home we could provide.
I am not saying that those things are unimportant. They are part of what makes you special. We played up that fct that we didn't live in the 'burbs. We have really cool neighbors and a level of diversity that we couldn't find in any other place. Our house is small but we made it unique and if "fits" our lifestyle. What stood out for the birth family of #4 was the fact that we had lots of kids and lived in a diverse area. She was okay that the house wasn't perfect and liked that I am handy. You will find someone who likes BECAUSE of your home and your lifestyle. Your job is to get out there and find the right one.
lisa
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