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Old 03-15-2005, 06:04 AM
jaenelle jaenelle is offline
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I'm not sure I can come up with a response to this without getting upset, and I think we're veering off topic, anyway.

I did NOT say we would be the best parents for every child of a different race. I simply said (or meant, at least) that we were open to a child of whatever race God feels belongs with us. Maybe it will be a white child. Maybe not. Who knows? I am leaving it in his hands who He sends us -- but I feel it is our job to be open to whatever possibilities might be available.

I also do NOT plan to simply raise the child as if they were white, whether they are or not. I will try the best that I can to make them aware of their culture and, if possible, to find them people from their culture to talk to. That may NOT be easy in our rural area, but I will try.

I am not perfect. DH is not either. I don't think anyone is. The best that all adoptive parents can do is try to raise their children the best way they feel they can under the circumstances.

Everyone is different --children and parents -- and I resent the implication that we are somehow unqualified to parent a child of another race, when you don't know our circumstances or that of the child.
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April '09 -- Starting research into adopting from foster care
MAPP Classes: May 5 - July 7
June '09 -- Quit MAPP classes, adoption plans on hold while deciding if Haiti might be right for us in a few years.
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