[LisaCA]

very eloquent, binyasa. Definitely, don't use agencies that perpetuate this as binyasa suggests. If you need to use that agency (and there are many reasons why some of us may not have flexibility) there are non profit folks who will "educate" your agency about what they may need work on. I called our facilitator who does non profit work, and she lectured my agency (it was better received by them than by us). it eventually led to a series of seminars including one specifically on Transracial placements (absolutely necessary as our agency did not do these).

as a person who abhors discrimination, I went with our facilitator who supports and works with gay and lesbian parents. they also sponsor camps for multiracial families formed thru adoption and we donate in support of them. There are many of these groups out there and they deserve our support. binyasa's right, it is particularly important for white parents to take up this fight.

and binyasa, I'm amazed that you can form a sentence after a month with a cranky baby, let alone write so well-I'm truly jealous of your ability to hold it together. you must share your secret with us all .