[MargieMe]

As a single AA prospective amom, I was DISGUSTED by the attitude of many agencies. First, "...and your husband's name?" When I replied I had no husband there was this lllllllooooooonnnnnngggggggg pause, like this was completely unhead of. The second was when an agency stated that "one of the couple had to regularly attend" church services (w/in their denomination), but there was flexiblity when you (perspective parents) were interested in a special needs or minority child. What?! The "defective" and the "nonwhite" don't need the a church going family?! I am not a regular attendee of any denomination, but I have a regular, close relationship with God and if we are all equal in His/Her eyes, how do people justify that the homes for some children can be "sub-par"?

Sorry to vent like this but as an AA and a special education teacher, I know that those with a heavier cross to bear need all the more support. And eliminating what these agencies promote as an important characteristic for families for those that may have that heavier burden, particularly for those adopting transracially, seems like they are devaluing certain children when comparing them to healthy, white kids.

Sorry to go on like this, but some things just make me crazy!