[BrandyHagz]

There are far fewer black Americans who adopt in comparison to their white counterparts. Additionally, some white Americans tend to want to adopt a child that “looks like them” when adopting.

It can be frustrating, but at the same time, you have to respect their decision not to bring an ethnic (anything other than white) child into their home, if they aren’t prepared to parent a child of another ethnic background.

I know when I was researching transracial adoption, my husband and I really had to look down deep within ourselves, we had to evaluate our home, our way of life, the area we live in and the people who live around us, before we were able to make the decision that we would be willing to adopt across racial lines. Some people just don't feel like they can do it, and that’s a shame…but I have to respect their ability to admit that they aren’t able to parent “any” child…

To really understand the reason, you have to find out why they are unwilling to accept a black American child. Is it because Grandpa Frank is a Dixie Flag waiving racist? Is it because they don't want their child to feel singled out in their primarily white neighborhood? Is it because they don't feel they can embrace the culture and instill pride in the child regarding their culture? I think all of those are very valid reasons for choosing not to adopt transracially.

We all know what our limitations are; all we can do is respect the decision of other people in regards to their limitations regarding transracial adoption.

Like you Martha, I used to become very frustrated by it…I’m not so much any more… advertisers try to target their market audience, that audience is comprised of more white American couples than black American couples…I’d like to see more transraical ad’s involving black American babies. They already seem comfortable showing ads for white American parents who have adopted from other countries…yet we see far fewer transracial (black/white) ad’s, to me that’s curious.