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My goodness I know where you are coming from. We were in excaterly the same place two years ago. I was feeling a strong call to adopt again. Our older kids came to us as babies but with some challeges and have done very well. I felt like we learned a lot and we were uniquely suited to parent children who others would not consider adopting. Dh also put it off becasue he really didn't want anymore chidlren. He was worried about money and time.
One day Iw as on my way to luch with a friend (youth minister at our church),I arrived early and she wasn't in her office yet. I decided to sit in the sancuary and pray on it. I didn't want to be angry and unhappy about not adoptiing again and I wanted to ask for guidance in how to pout that part of my life behind me. Just as I walked in my cell phone rang and it was our attorney calling and asking if we would be open to multiracial twin girls due any minute? If that wasn't God speaking to us I don't know what is?
Dh was totally overwhelmed but reluctantly agreed to move forward after several days. In the end the birth parents got married and parented the girls who were born a few weeks later but the situation got us talking. We could not talk about it becasue it was so emotional so we sent emails back and forth for several days. maybe if you sent your dh a copy of this post it could begin the conversation. i poured out my heart to my dh and explained why I felt the call and that he was a big part of it. I knew he worried about the time he spent with our kids but I wanted to increase our family BECAUSE he was a great dad and partner. He had lost sight of what he HAD accomplished as a dad. I admitted that he was right about the money but that I just KNEW things would work out.
Three months later our youngest was born. A perfect but tiny baby. Her birth mother had several challenges that made her hard to place in her city but she was perfect for our family. Yes money and time are tight but that doesn't matter as much when it just feels right. I hope the two of you can come to a place where you can do the right thing.
lisa
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