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How sad for everyone involved. I am deeply touched by this post as I will, more than likely, be facing the death of my foster child that I will be adopting.

When the doctor told me that Charlie would pass away I contacted his social worker and she told me that if we would preplan his funeral the state would pay for more than a pauper's funeral. There would have been no way in he** he would be buried that way, I'd have paid for it all myself.

I agree with Jen about the memorial service. We had Charlie baptized last summer. I invited his parents (their rights are not terminated yet but they gave permission for us to baptize him) but they didn't show. The only people that attended were my family, my friends/neighbors who were his godparents and 3 people from DCS. Honestly, that's all the people that were important in his life. I don't mean that as a dig against his family, I mean it sincerely, these are the people that have been there to support us through the nightmare of finding out he is not expected to live long.

I'm sorry your friend lost a child she loves. I will pray that God gives her and her family the strength to get through this.

Michelle