03-07-2005, 04:54 PM
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Our boys foster mom had a baby die while in her care as a result of cocaine exposure (heart defect, baby died in his sleep). In this situation the bmom was also quite hateful towards the fmom (who had had the baby since birth) and the fmom didnt feel comfortable attending the family funeral.
What they did, is the pastor of a friend of theirs held a memorial service for the foster family and friends (swers attended that service as well) for those who had actually known and cared for the baby. The birthfamily had their own separate service.
Is that an option for her? A memorial service of some sort?
Jen
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Jensboys - Mom of 4 Boys (2 adopted, 2 biological)  Reunited Sister
Fostering Miss Tiny and Miss Curious - Two Months and 13 months when placed May, 2009
Blogging about reunion with our 14 year old, Not reuniting with our 13 year old, transracial parenting, adoption and life as a minority family in a rural community. And oh yeah, now I have cancer.
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