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Originally Posted By older adoptee

Tell them that even though you didn't give them life that you give them all your love. Tell them that a man and a woman loved them enough to know that they wanted them to have more they could ever offer. That even though you didn't carry them inside you for 9 months that you will carry them in your hearts for a lifetime. Just don't hide anything. IF you don't know the answer tell them you don't know. Let them know that giving birth to a child doesn't make them a person a parent. That a mom and dad is someone who is there for you when your sick at 3 am and holds you during a thunderstorm and wipes away the tears when you've had your heart broken. They will have questions but some questions can't be answered. I was adopted when I was 7 and in foster homes since 3 I may not know when I took my first step or said my first word but I know when I was held for the first time by someone who really loved me. I know that I was choosen by two wonderful people who would sacrifice their lives for me. If you need someone to talk to please e-mail me at cljaffe@hotmail.com Good luck.