Wow, it's good to know I'm not alone
My husband and I are still in the very early stages of the process -- mostly just talking about it, and gathering data. I expect it will be a couple of years before we get really serious about it, for various reasons.
One of the things I'm most concerned about is telling his family.
My family will be fine with it, I expect, as we've got so many step-kids, half-siblings, etc. all of whom are fully accepted into the family, that it will be no big deal for most of them to accept an adopted child. Some of the in-laws on my side are also non-caucasian, and they've all been accepted just fine.
But
his family...I'm always reminded of that Sex and the City episode where Charlotte wants to adopt a Chinese baby, and her mother-in-law says something to the effect "No mandarin baby will ever carry the name of [their last name]." Shades of my MIL... They sometimes make inappropriate or racist comments (which greatly irks me), and since we're leaning towards adopting from Asia...yeah. I'm a little worried about their reaction. I expect to get a heavy guilt-trip from them about not choosing to have children of our own (we must carry on the bloodline! Blech. We're not thoroughbreds!) on top of whatever inappropriate comments regarding the probable race of our future children. Luckily, they live on the other side of the country, so interaction with them is limited. We intend to slowly introduce them to the idea by bringing it up over Christmas this year...hopefully if they have a couple of years to chew it over, they can get used to the idea. And if not...oh well.