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Hi,
My two have their own rooms because I have 5 bedrooms and an office (god bless suburbia) but I wouldn't hesitate to have them share. They actually beg to have "sleepovers" in each others rooms. We read stories in one room before bed and then the interloper heads to her own room too. I kept the babies in my room for a long time (8 months for my youngest) as I think it helps them sleep through the night and that is very important to me. I am actually thinking of moving the girls (now aged 3 and 5) in together when the new baby comes but I haven't decided for sure. I'd like to keep the guest room open cause we get lots of company. There were different rules in New Jersey - but since you are in CA that shouldn't matter.
I found that a 2 1/2 year difference was perfect - my oldest wanted to help and was able to help without being too dangerous, and was able to somewhat understand that I needed to spend time with the baby. Any earlier would have been difficult, any later would not have been such a good bond. But for number 3 I have waited to start until my youngest is 3 because she was definitely not ready to be a big sister and I didn't feel it would be a great situation for anyone before now. So maybe your daughter can help you figure out timing too!
By the way, I am a single mom, by choice no less, and how do I do it??? Mostly without whining because I did it to myself, and it is the best thing I have ever done - I LOVE IT. I have support (a nanny, friends etc) and have long gotten over my desire for independence. And I don't do it all - my number one priority is always my kids and the rest then falls into place. And I don't have to spend time maintaining a relationship (although I would be happy to add that to my duties if any of you know Mr Right). My neighbor does the snowblowing, without being asked, by the way and I gratefully bake him brownies and buy toys for his kids...It does take patience, organization etc but then so does all motherhood....Thanks for the kind thoughts for us single moms
Cynthia
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