[HappyMomAnna]

Even if your adoptive family did recieve a subsidy or social security they are NOT required to save it for you to use as an adult--they are supposed to use it for the needs that having an addiotional child might require.

If it was Social Security that would be seen a lot like a child support payment.....My second husband and I recieved child support from the father of my children to use in order to raise them....We did not have to save the funds for the kids....and what my second husband earned did not change what their father owed for child support....

Social Security and Adoption Assistance are offered to families who provide for children who may not otherwise have had a family to call thier own..... Adoption Assistance is often based on what the child needs...and special things the child might need given the history.... It is usually not a ton of money. Social Security would have been based on the earnings and benifits that the biological family may have established and are provided for children to have their basic needs be met....

While I don't think it is fair that the biological children may have recieved MORE from your adoptive family it does not actually mean that the adoptive parents took from you to give to their other children..... What may older children recieve in child support goes into our family budget and is NOT accounted for....If someone asked me to account for it I could with great ease---1/3 of the motgage--1/3 of the electric bill--1/3 of the food budget--1/3 of the car payment--1/3 of the car insurance--1/3 of the chirstmas bill--1/3 of the vacation costs--1/3 of the wardrobe budget--1/3 of the cost of every part of the household which supports a total of 6 people with 2 recieving child support--If forced to demonstarte that I used child support FOR the children recieveing it 1/3 of everything counts!

It could very well be true that you were ripped off and that your life was given lower priority then the other children....But my adopted children may grow up to recieve ten times the things my older children have---and my adopted children may have a far bigger support of college then my older children have....Ironically the older children have almost exactly the same amount for child support as we get for the adoption assistance of the adopted children recieve--THE difference is that WE are doing better as our younger children grow up....we have another 11 years to save for the adopted children to start college--and we are going to be more finaincially able to give more to these younger children then we did for the older two....

My older two may resent this later---they may be angry that their younger adopted siblings GET More....

But also when youlook at things my husband was the youngest of three and when he was off at college his parents ran out of money to help--his older siblngs had much more assistance then he got--he resents it but his family had what they had and did the best they could....so he had to work harder take more loans and provide more for himself just because he was the little guy---he even had to give up Santa and trips to disneyland sooner then they did...the older kids got cars...he didn't..... He cannot point his finger and claim he was abused and ripped off over any of it--that was just the reality of the family budget....

It may be that your adoptive parents took advantage of some additional support money---the question is COULD they have adopted you and taken care of all their children without it? If they could not have provided for a family with one more child added without the additional funds...then perhaps they did do the BEST things they could for the children they were raising....?