[Shoshana]

Yes, I was the curious type like Sally ;-) and searched crowds and the phonebook (go figure - thought I'd recognize a name by osmosis or something) when I was very young.

My (a)mother wrote to the adoption agency when my (a)sister and I were in high school to request non-identifying information. I STILL remember the phrase "quiet and cultured" but as a whole, it was very non-identifying (worthless) except for the ages.

Donna - to answer your question re my bfather - there are many reasons. I was never curious about him as a child and only driven to know my bmother. When I found my bmother, she asked me not to search - I agreed for the sake of our relationship/trust and also because I'd never been that curious (I figured I could always do it later). In the intervening years, in addition to learning that he did not know she was pregnant, I learned that he's probably not a person that I could respect. The bottom line is that I don't feel like there are any missing pieces. Is that logical? Probably not. I do look very much like my bmother and just do not have the interest or energy to search for the sake of knowledge that I'm not hungry for. Does that make sense?