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Hi. I agree with the other posts. My family has a within family adoption and it has been very difficult for all involved, mostly the sweet child. The poor child knows who her birthmother is and struggles with seeing her have other children. "Why didn't she want me?" Even though a lot of time is spent with this poor sweet girl to try to help her understand (she is my adoptive sister), my heart often breaks for her. I love her so much and am so grateful to have been a part of her life, as does the rest of my siblings and parents, however, I am not sure it was the correct decision to place her within the family.
Should you decide to adopt this sweet little one, you really have to set up boundaries and be very careful. I have spent a lot of time with the birthmom of my sister, and she also struggles with seeing her daughter all the time. My sister is now a young teenager, but the emotional strain has been difficult for her and her birthmother.
I am sure there are many examples of when a situation like this will work out. I am sure you and your wife have spent much time in prayer about this and this is really only the way to to know for sure what you should do.
Good luck....
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