[emme11]

We recently had the exact same situation happen to us. It was a really hard decision to make since we have been waiting for adoption for awhile now. We felt a lot of the same concerns and decided that it was best for us and the baby to help my cousin find another family to place her child with. You and your wife must be in total agreement for this to work. Pray about it and if one of you is still not comfortable with the situation than you should not do it. Adopting within the family can be very hard. You need to evaluate your level of comfort in regards to the amount of contact you have with the cousin. What kind of role does the cousin plan on having in the adoption and are you comfortable with that? There are so many things to take into account. I wish you the best of luck in whatever decision you make.