My husband and I have been married for 4 years/ together for 6. I have a soon to be 12 year old son from my previous marriage.
My exhusband lives 5 hours driving time from here. He has had an off again/on again relationship with my son now for the last 3 years and its only gotten worse.
We hired an attorney in May 2004, after it had been well over a year with no visits, no christmas, no birthdays etc...
The sad thing is that my husband works for an airline and we fly to an airport (for free mind you) only 15 miles from y ex husbands home, and he still doesn't call or email or anything to set up a time to see my son.
My ex has decided to contest the adoption.
It is a strange case as the DCFS is FOR the adoption and yet the guardian ad litem is NOT. She feels we need to give my ex another chance (actually this would be chance #3) at trying to be a good father, staying in contact, paying support etc...
After the first hearing, almost two months lapsed with no contact again...not even a card/letter/email, anything to my son.
We had another hearing (the big adoption hearing) February 14, 2005. The Judge asked my ex herself..."If the adption did not go through, what would you be willing to do to have a relationship with yur son, to see him etc...?" his answer... "Well, I'd just have to try".
Our attorney handed the Judge some copies of some other court cases that were similiar to ours, to show the judge that the adoption DID in fact go through.
Today is February 25, still not one call or anything since court ended.
The Judge is supposed to make her final call one day next week, around Feb 28th. She wants to review everything that was testified in court along with any court case findings that both lawyers feel needs to be brought to the attention of the judge.
My son does know who his biological father is, and we are even trying for an open adoption so that as long as my ex wants to see my son, AND , my son wants to see him...we will work it out for them to visit each other.
We are not trying to stop them from seeing one another (My ex has done that all on his own over the years) we are trying to preserve our sons future, especially if anything ever happened to me, I need to know that he would still be with my husband, Michael and living the lifestyle and the way of life that he is accustomed to living.
We are doing this in the best interest of my son
