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Reluctant Spouse
My wife and I tried for many years to get pregnant. It was very important to her not only to be a mother, but to be pregnant. Unfortunately, with all of the procedures, charts, etc. it never happend. The doctors never said we couldn't have a child, it just didn't happen.
Having a birth was not as important to me. I did want children. So, I started researching adoption. At some point I asked her about it. She said she wasn't ready to talk about adoption yet. I didn't push the subject. Every so often, I would ask if she was ready to discuss adoption. She would say no, and I would drop it.
Finally, she said yes. So, we talked, we researched, and we talked some more. Today we have a beautiful boy from Russia who is the joy of our life. We are currently getting ready to start a China adoption.
Marriage really is a partnership. You both need to be on the same page whether you are talking about a pregnancy or an adoption. You can't force the issue. Talk. Pray. You will work it out.
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