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sneezyone
Well, this is a tough one. I agree that your dd should be told the truth when she is older, and a letter from her birthmom is a nice thing for her to have. I think knowing she was concieved through assault is about as much as she needs to know though at first, especially if it is the first method of contact from her birthmom. If she develops a relationship with her birthmom later on, when there is an element of trust and a bond between them, maybe then if birthmom wants to tell more, it would be more appropriate, and can be a joint decision.
But, rather than you edit the parts you feel are "inappropriate", I would personally contact birthmom explaining your fears, and request that she writes another letter, not quite so graphic.
Hope this helps
Collette
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