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So, who told you that you needed a homestudy? Maybe you do, but you might just want to call around to a couple other attorneys experienced in step-parent (not just straight adopt) adoption and ask about it. Or try to research your state's laws regarding step-parent adoption.
If you want some good suggestions on when/what to tell your son, there are some EXCELLENT members on this site who I'm sure could give you much better advice than I could. Post a "When should I tell him?" Thread on the General Adoptive Parent Support forum and you'll probably be overwhelmed with responses. I'll warn you though -- this site is very pro-openness.
One thing I would suggest though, is that when you do tell him, you focus on the fact that your husband is his Dad (whether he's adopted him or not). Any male can become a father, but it takes a real man to be a Dad. Good luck!
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