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August, I am 49. My dh is 42. My bio son is 9 and my pre-adoptive son is 5. I am not old. I am president of the parent, staff organization of the 9 year olds school. My friends range in age from 24 to 95. I don't worry about my age or that of anyone else. The other mothers at the school are shocked when they find ut that I am the same age as [i]their mothers. A long time ago I very wise woman told me "Age is a matter of mind. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter". If you are going thorough life expecting that others may judge you because you are older, or because your daughter is adopted rather than from your womb you will be right. When my dh and I decided to pursue adoption we spoke to everyone about it. The entire staff of my sons school knew what was going on every step of the way. And I made some discoveries. The school nurse has an adopted daughter... thefront desk secretary adopted both her dughters,,,, the speech therapist adopted her son from India.... the fourth gradeteacher adopted her son... It seemed that everytime I opened a door I found another person whose life was touched by adoption.
Nothing is an issue unless you make it an issue.
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