[danhanan]

J...our daughter has always been aware of the term adoption. She is 3 1/2 and our oldest daughter just gave birth to her second child. Knowing there was a baby in her sister's belly prompted conversation and questions. Although she's very disappointed to find out that she didn't grow in my belly, she knows that makes her even more special to us. Every now and then she will ask another question and we answer her truthfully. It was several months before she asked whose belly she grew in. She is very familiar with her bmom and bsibs and yet feels no real connection. So, when your daughter is ready, the questions will come. I think though that it's much more hurtful to save "suprises" until later.