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I would guess that each state is different.....but my assumption would be that your time in marriage will affect the choice of where these kids will be placed. I know that may not seem very fair; but it would also need to be considered that children from the system present a lot of issues that require a very tried and true force to 'reckon with'. Please don't misunderstand me.....I suspect that you and your husband may, in fact, have that strong force between you-----but overall, the system may not see it that way.
Adoption of older children is a tough road, at best. Being newly married, combined with the manipulations and possible triangulations some of these kids present, is tough on any marriage, let alone a new one.
Best of luck to you though. As I said, every state is different.....and there is always the chance that other reasons may make the system take a closer look at your situation and you'd have a chance to have them!
Sincerely,
Linny
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