out2pgh
not sure what you meant by this statement?
"Remember, we have to be better parents because we are gay and lesbian."
my feeling is, we all have to better parents...no parent is perfect, gay or straight..this isnt a competition.
i think i have an idea on why you think g/l need to be 'better parents'...my guess is that you have to 'prove' something.
but i do believe its already documented already that g/l make good parents just as much as straight parents do... (thats the reason g/l can adopt in the first place.)
actually, ill go even further..and say that i had read somewhere that g/l parents make better parents to adopted kids because they can understand certain issues when they were younger, and have more understanding if a child feels 'different' then the other kids.
my fear, and i have heard it from my g/l friends...is that they find it hard to ask for support, because they feel that people would think because they are g/l that they cannot parent children.
i tell them, what a crock...and its their crap, and no one elses.
your statement kinda bothered me (can you tell...
) ....i think we all have to try to parent these children better...and if we need support, trying to prove something...would only hurt the children.
There is nothing to prove here..we are all in this together, and the more support we can get, the more success we have at raising our children.
so i say...take the pride and toss it to the wind...were dealing with children and now is not the time to think that g/l parents need to be better parents then straight.
anyway, i felt i had to say something, i dont want any g/l parents to think they have to prove something. we all can use some support, and it doesnt mean that you are not good parents, it just means that sometimes our kids in the system are tough to parent.