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Jessica:
I agree with most of the others--that a time away from face-to-face contact, at least between your daughter and M, would be good. One parent I know who adopted at two-year-old child in an open adoption didn't have contact between her daughter and her daughter's birthmother for a period of time (she's moved, so I don't know how long), but during that time she (the adoptive mother) and the birthmother did meet a few times. I think that contact between the two moms helped to establish a bit of a relationship apart from the child, helped to reassure the birthmother that the adoption would remain open while giving the child time to adjust to the new family, and it gave a chance to pass on information and pictures in a more personal way. Maybe this would work for a while.
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Leslie, mom to Ben and Nevin
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