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Blue Irish Eyes: You have not shared much as to ages..yourself or your sister. So I will assume you are all over 21.
I was placed through CC in KC MO so the state laws may be different in PA. However, in MO, when I, an adoptee, wanted to search, I could get the non id info and the cost then was 50 dollars. That was in 2003. If I wanted a full search it was an additional 200. I don't know what the fees are now. In any event, if my aparents were still alive, even though I am over 21 I would have had to have their written permission but since they are deceased the copy of the death certificate was what was needed. So if PA laws are like MO, that may be one reason your sister has not contacted CC. In my case, CC located my bmom who would not reply to their efforts for contact..not even to say she wanted no contact so the court ordered my case closed. In the end I hired a well known PI and learned names.
I would suggest first that you find out what the laws are in PA for a search. If you want to have CC assign a searcher that would be one way to go and if they locate your sister she will have the option of letting the CC searcher know if she wants contact. If she doesn't she may agree to answer questions using the searcher as a go between. You can ask the searcher for CC to include in her file your letter asking for contact, letting her know you would agree to it. And if there is medical information you feel you need to pass to her you could go that route.
You need to read the threads here and get a feel for how reunions work. Some are wonderful and others are not. Mine was not, my bmother wants nothing to do with me at all and shared very little medical information. YOu need to be prepared for any event, These searches are intense,highly charged and can be very emotional and stressful. REad all you can from birthmothers, adoptees and the siblings. It will be to your advantage.
Good luck....and keep in mind no question is a stupid one and we are all here to help each other sort these issues out.
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I am 29 years old, soon to be 30. So that would make my adopted sister 33 years old.
CC did not mention to me the cost for the adoptee to search. I went through a woman at CC that strictly manages searches and reunions. CC has an offive near Harrisburg that only does searches for adoptees and birthparents. The problem with this is, no information can be given unless the adopted has already done a search or inquire on her file. And in this case, she has not done a search. BUT, since family health and medical conditions factor in, the woman got permission from the higher ups to do the search for us. The $300 is the cost to begin the search. When or if she is found, she will be given the medical history and then it is up to her if she wants to reunite. That is how it was all explained to me.I kept all her emails and I will post them so it is better understood what I am saying. My mom does have her signature on file permitting the my adopted sister to contact her.
Thanks for your halp. I have been searching this board inside and out to receive any kind of information I can.
Nicole