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Our situation is a little different only in the fact we are adopting older children 9 and 11. I too know they will always feel a connection with the bmother and never want to take that away nor replace it. We have discussed keeping in touch, but after visits and contact it is difficult to come back to us on an emotional level. We have decided that in order to gain some sense of normallcy, we will not have direct contact. We have chosen to embrace their bfamily by sharing thoughts and stories. I have gotten to know their bmother quite well through their foster placement wirh us and gathered many stories to share with them. We will send pictures as they grow so they may stay connected. It is very difficult to know what is the right thing to do, you need to trust your instincts they will guide you in the right direction.
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