[antifloyd]

I can't offer any suggestions or advice (it looks like you've gotten quite a bit of both) but I can certainly offer support! As a 17-yr-old bmom 24 yrs ago, I probably would not have been open to a gay couple adopting my child, but (thank the gods) I've become more educated/open-minded since then!
I hope you have had/are having good luck in your search!
Blessed Be!