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It's good to hear the update!!
May I give my opinion? Ummmm. You know that when I found my bmom that I found out she died when I was only one. My amom said it was a shame but probably going to make it easier for everyone that way. Now, almost 7 months later, my aparents don't bring up anything about my birth family. My hubby and I went to visit my sister (birth) and her family in Oct, then used the second half of the visit to see my folks. I brought my "adoption search" scrapbook. The looked at very quick and since then the subject has not come up unless I bring it up.
Sometimes I think my family thought that when I found my birth family I would say hi and bye and that would be that. (Actually, they never thought I would find them....) . So, your daughters amom might be dealing with the reality that no matter how many years have passed, there is still a bond. I do hope that your daughters amom will express her feelings honestly and become a part of the relationship of this "new" family rather then distance herself.
I do think your standing to the side to give some space and time is a very good thing. But then I already knew you were a good woman.
Bless
Wendy