[miasmom]

Hi-

I am mostly a lurker so I thought I would give you all a quick background before asking for advice!
My name is Mindy, my daughter Mia just turned one on New Years Day! We adopted her domestically and she has been with us from birth-she is the light of our lives!

We have been back and forth between adopting again (we had a great experience but we all know how emotionally taxing it can be!) and hitting the fertility treatment road again. We are still undecided.

Recently, my girlfriend approached me about a 4 year old who needs a home. She has two adopted children and does not feel that they are in a financial situation to take this child. (this was after much agonizing) The reason bmom is giving him up is that she has been given a year to live. (it is a heartwrenching story)

I cannot stop thinking about this little guy and I really want to move forward, but I am not sure how adopting an older child will affect Mia emotionally.

I am hoping you all will have some experience or advice on this. All opinions welcome!

Thanks in advance

Mindy