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I'm not an expert on this, we've only been doing this for 3 months, and have one that has ODD and PTSD who can rage from a few minutes to hours.
We've discovered he does this when he is tired, and it can happen at 9 am or bedtime. He sleeps 9 - 10 hours a night PLUS naps when I can get him to lay down.
We've done a few things. One thing was Love and Logic "energy drain". You can get better details on that on their web site, but it works. Another was pulling weeds. Anytime he cusses, throws things, extreme stuff, he gets 10 more weeds. The 1st time he thought it was fun. By the second time, he wasn't happy, and now all we have to say is "do you want to pull weeds?" and he backs off a little (at least he doesn't throw things or cuss). He will do other things, but we handle these things by 1. no physical contact (it makes him madder) although when he starts to calm down I will go and rub his back and talk softly to him -- letting him know he can do this, he can calm down, he has the power to do this 2. he has to stay on his bed 3. NO eye contact with him no matter what (he's looking for an audience).
The biggest thing we do is notice his tell-tell signs of getting tired. We really try to keep to his bed time (which is an hour and a half before the bed time he came to us with).
I know it's tough, but love and logic skills do work for us and the weeds came from my friend who worked at a youth home for years. Good luck!
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