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I have been searching for my bdad for quite a while now. My bmom had passed away before I found her - so I couldn't ask her any questions about him.
Even though I realize she may not have told anyone about me I can't help but think that she would have confided in a good girlfriend.
I spoke with a classmate of hers and tried to be very discreet. Just a daughter requesting stories about her mom. But this sounded too "fishy" and I ended up telling this woman who I really was. She was very nice and gave me the name of another classmate whom I recently contacted and now am waiting for a reply.
I am feeling bad that in order to conduct my search my bmom's "secret" has to be out in the open.
This whole process is soo difficult. Trying not to hurt anyone (even though she has passed away.)
Anyone have any thoughts or ideas?