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We too have a positive older child adoption story. Our son has been home 14 months now. He came home at 7.5 years old.
Is he perfect? Not by a long shot. Does he have some issues that are adoption and trauma related from his past? Yes, absolutely. We knew that going into his adoption. And, yes he's in grief therapy at this point (we don't feel he requires attachment therapy and niether does his therapist). He's only required that for the last 2.5 months and its pretty much related to grief issues from his past.
Might he go through points of high stress in his life that he desires someone to work things out with again? Entirely possible. And, I hope that by teaching him to reach out and get the help he needs to work through his emotions now that I am giving him the tools for a lifetime of healthy emotions later as well, not just a fix-it for his intense emotional needs now.
But, overall, he is an absolutely delightful child. He is strongly, appropriately attached to myself, his father and all 3 of his siblings. Actually, he's wrapped about his baby sister's pinky finger about as tightly as he could be. He's brillant and catching up rapidly for years of lack of education. He's an amazing artist, an affectionate young man. He's polite, honest, inquisitive, and amazing.
I am so amazingly blessed to be this child's mother. I am so humbly grateful for the gift that has been given to me in this young man. And, I look forward with eager anticipation to watching him live his life in beauty and fullness. This young man was so very much worth the risks, the fears, the naysayers and the leap of faith it took to bring him home. Our lives would be so empty without our son in them, all of us, not just myself by his entire family. And, his story is what the majority of older child adoptions are. You aren't going to hear and see them nearly as much on the internet because those parents aren't on the internet desperately seeking support and assistance. They are simply living their lives with their children.
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