[SchmennaLeigh]

Regina,

I understand that we always want to do what is in the best interest of the child. However, you simply are refusing to look at this from a birthparent's view. They trusted that they would be allowed to remain in an open adoption and then were denied that contact. Yes, trust issues would form.

Examples outside of adoption:

A friend of mine used to be a great confidante, never revealing my inner most thoughts to anyone else. However, she broke that trust by telling something of importance to someone else of importance, which should have been left to me. Do I now trust her with pertinent info? No. Did I shun her completely? No. But we are slowly working to regain trust.

In adoption:

The "agency" that we went through promised me the world, including the simple post-placement counseling. After they lied to me about the legalities regarding open adoption, I didn't trust them. When I got the courage up to approach them about counseling, they literally slammed the door in my face. Do I trust them? No. They did it twice. Will I trust them ever again? No.

Trust is something to be earned.

Of course, this is only MY opinion... and I will now shutup.