[tobeafamily]

Jenna,

Speaking for myself, the language was harsh. "Sticking my neck out on the chopping block", "door slammed in my face". This is condemning language - because what those words SAY is that this aparent chopped her child's bparents heads off and slammed the door in their face. Ouch.

What makes it seem, well, judgemental is that first, I'm not entirely sure from the post that's what happened, more a we need to reduce visits b/c DD's having a rough time right now and they apparently didn't like hearing that and a wall got built. Second, she's accepted her role and is wanting to work through it. I suspect she gets that she hurt them, b/c she's apologized, and gets that trust has been strained.

My point: Go easy on her. She's doing her best. Telling her in so many words about how what she did was chop heads off and slam doors isn't productive. Helping her with methods that rebuild trust is wonderful, and I agree that words from this young girl may do wonders b/c it may help them realize that in the end it's all about what this little girl needs, period. And she needs them.

I hope the relationship is fixable, based on one post it's impossible to say. I'll offer any experience I have to make it so.

IMHO

Regina