[FL_GirlByProxy]

What a great thread, thanks for starting it. If only this, (and the internet) were here when I was going through it.

Four years after placing my birthson in a closed adoption, 20 years ago this year, I married a wonderful man. He was not the birthfather of my birthson. We wanted to begin a family very soon. Starting around a year after we were married, six months of trying and no results. We sought help at that point. The doctor ran all the tests, husband first because I had already had a child, and he turned out just fine. Then we endured more tests, very hard to go through, and the doctor decided to start me on chlomid. He told me to call the office after the start of my next cycle. I thought, "Great, someone is solving this problem for me. I don't have to think about it anymore. It's going to happen." This was at around the 13 month mark of trying. Long story short, my cycle never came, instead of calling him to start the chlomid, I had to call the doc's office and let them know I thought I was pregnant. I had a positive result at home. Eric was born 9 months later. 3 years after Eric, we wanted another child, and that time it only took us 4 months to conceive. Eric and Kristen are 3 years and 10 months apart. I have no idea why it was difficult to get pregnant my second time. I know 13 months doesn't sound like a really long time, it's just a mystery to me how the times can be so different when you're trying, and why birthmoms go through this so often. Just my thoughts.