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We have our goodbye visit this coming tuesday.
Last time it was scheduled the bmom didn't show up. I know it was a hard day for her.
I was a little put off because we have talked about having a semi-open adoption...we waited at the DHS office for an hour for the bmom who never called or showed up. My fd is almost 3 and she was excited to see her....then we had to leave...with the present we had stayed up late making for her. I know our little girl was dissapointed and so was I.
They finally rescheduled it...and I'm really hoping she does show up. If she doesn't i may have to rethink how open we might have this adoption be. I don't want my little girl to be put through trauma...because the bmom sets up a visit then doesn't show.
I understand how difficult this visit is....even though she will continue to hear from her and see her...it's just the idea behind it...her last real visit before her child becomes an official member of someone else's family.
I hope she will know how much a care for her...and how much I wish i could take her pain away. She signed over her rights...so it's not like she was just snatched away from her...but I'm sure she will be going through so many different feelings.
Before the last vist...I was so sick to my stomack....I knew what she must be going through that night before...and I felt so bad she had to go through that pain. I'm not sure how I will feel as our day gets closer...I just hope that I can be supportive to her bmom and convey my sympathy and love that i have for her.
I hope your visit went well today...hopefully they got some really good pictures. I also hope your children will be able to handle the feelings they are feeling and share them with you so you can console them and comfort them during this hard time as well.
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