[kune]

Just a quick response - to fatboybert
I believe that you cannot truly love anyone else until you learn to love yourself. You see, when you believe you are loveable, then others feel it too. Maybe its time for you to acknowledge the goodness in yourself, heal your hurts and past errors, but stay focussed on the direction you want your life to take rather than keep looking at where it has gone to date. We can all get bogged down in where we have fallen down in the past, and we need to rationalise the why's and wherefore's but if you concentrate on every new day as a new beginning, faced with a smile, a positive attitude and attainable goals, you begin to really live.
That's my mantra - for what it is worth.